You Can't Have a Baby

For the last few weeks I have been writing about the ways that God has pursued me in my lifetime. This series is based on the wonderful twenty third Psalm - “Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever.” Psalm 23:6.  

Beckey and I were married on July 8, 1989, in Bristol, England. Like many young couples, we dreamed of the day when we would be able to settle down, buy a house and start a family. But God had very different plans for our lives – plans that deeply tested our trust and faith in God.

 I had just about finished college and had started to look for a job when we began to pray about beginning a family. After about three months of trying to conceive, we began to wonder if there was a problem. I remember like it was yesterday … coming home from work one evening and hearing my wife crying. I remember seeing the negative pregnancy test and knowing the cause of her pain. To have children is a natural desire, and not being able to start a family is very personal and painful. The days turned into weeks. The weeks turned into months. Still no pregnancy.

 After about nine months of trying to conceive, we went to see our doctor. Those appointments were so hard. Conceiving children seemed so natural for others – and impossible for us. The doctor ran some tests and came back with the heart-breaking diagnosis. We both had challenges that meant, in all likelihood, we would never have children naturally. However, the doctor quickly followed up by offering us hope through the use of medication. Finally, after seventeen long months, we were able to conceive. Our daughter, Bronwyn, was born on August 9, 1993. A few years later, again with medical treatment, we were blessed by the birth of our eldest son, Luke. In 2005, following God’s leading, we adopted our son, Joshua, and we thought that our family was wonderfully complete.

 God had other plans. He had heard our prayers and pursued our hearts with His grace and mercy. In 2006, Beckey felt sick for some time. After seeing a doctor, she told me that the original diagnosis was wrong! We could conceive naturally. Beckey was pregnant with our fourth child! David was born on May 1, 2007. God pursues us. He answers our prayers and cares for our hearts! I pray my stories help prompt your memory with the many ways that God has pursued you all the days of your life.